If you have a busy, demanding hectic job, it is important to switch off at home and leave your work-related thoughts at the door. This enables you to bring awareness to your home and the people within it. When you are mindful in all that you do, whether playing with your children or doing the housework, then you can achieve a calmness within that is transmitted and radiates throughout your home and relationships.
- Take off your outdoor shoes. Remove your work shoes at the front door. This helps to shed work stress associations. Spending time at home in socks or bare feet is more relaxing than wearing shoes.
- Switch off your brain. When you are home, make a conscious break from work by making a spoken declaration. Use identical words each day for a compelling and effective result. You could say something like: “Work stays at the office” or “I work to live, not live to work”. You could say another mantra as you leave home to go to work each day to fire you up for an effective and productive day, for example: “I am refreshed and rested, ready to give a hundred percent at work”.
- Change into relaxing clothes. Whether you were formal clothes or more relaxed attire at work, it is still important to change into different clothes at home. This enables you to mentally relax and unwind into an “at home and relaxed state of mind”. Try wearing loose fitting comfortable outfits that facilitate a calm and relaxed state of mind and body.
- Put on some relaxing music. Music affects our mood and helps us to unwind. Depending on your state of mind select some suitable music.
- Turn off the phone. Many mobile phone users find that their phone causes stress. Researchers have discovered that mobile phone users who provided themselves with a time when they choose not to make or take calls had less symptoms of stress and had lower blood pressure when talking about their phone usage. Try this tip and see the positive effect that taking phone-free hours can have on your home life and relationships.
- Calm with scents. Aromas travel to the primitive limbic part of the brain in seconds. This is the section of the mind that is associated with mood and which processes emotional memories and moods. It sits below and acts before the more complex areas of the brain that are involved in reasoning and logical thought. Scents and aromas act rapidly to affect our emotional mood. Fill parts of your home with aromas using scented candles, incense sticks after a stressful day at work to rapidly calm your tension and relieve stress.
- Practice relaxing yoga. Yoga is a superb way to calm down after the daily grind. Select a quiet, warm place and lie down on your back with your legs slightly apart and your feet flopping outwards. Put your arms far enough away from your body to free your shoulders, with your palms facing up. Try to keep your face parallel to the floor. It may help to place a flat cushion or yoga block beneath your head. Shut your eyes and loosen your facial muscles so that you lose all expression from your face. Soften your mouth. Quieten your brain and thoughts. Aim for a state of mindfulness. Observe any thoughts that appear and watch them as if they are clouds passing across the sky. Focus on your breathing, feel the air passing in and out through your nostrils. Take slow, steady, relaxed inhalations and exhalations. Do not worry if your mind drifts off; simply bring your attention gently back to your breathing. Stay in this position for 10-15 minutes.
- Practice a muscle relaxing body scan. When you are lying in the yoga pose described above and also when you are lying in bed, focus on the parts of your body that are tense. Work through your body, checking each part for tension. In particular look for muscular tension in your neck, shoulders and jaw. Imagine tension and stiffness easing and tight muscles relaxing as you gently and slowly breathe out. Allow each area of your body that touches the floor or mattress to become heavy and sink into its support.